1. Enjoy your independent life
Your ex wants to see you suffer in some regard. Don’t give them that satisfaction! They want you to be meek. Instead, show them the newfound confidence that you have. Even if you have to fake it until you make it, it beats putting sugar in your ex’s gas tank and getting arrested. It shows maturity. It shows that you are the bigger and better person. You develop new hobbies, more friends, have more laughs. The best revenge is to be able to look at your ex one day and say, “You did me a favor.” Take care of yourself physically, because it will make a huge difference in your mindset.
2. Take care of yourself emotionally too
Start doing hobbies that are really cool (like small-scale traveling) to help you heal spiritually. Dance, laugh, and do things that make your spirit feel better. Your ex is expecting you to be hurt. So the more that you can do help yourself stay light and emotionally lifted, the better. That is why articles on revenge can be tricky.
Don’t jump into the crazy loop. Don’t stalk him/her. Don’t contact all his new girlfriend or boyfriends anonymously. Don’t stoop to a low level. I mean, you can, but the results from that kind of revenge aren’t as satisfying. Taking care of yourself emotionally is important, for your sake and your ex’s sake. I know you don’t care much about his sake right now…but one day you will.
3. Make Yourself Look Good
There is nothing worse than the burn of seeing your ex and they look better than they ever have. Don’t give them this satisfaction. One of the best ways to get revenge on your ex is by making yourself smoking hot. When you look better, you feel better. When you feel better, your ex will go nuts with jealousy. You are single now, don’t forget that. You can dress up for the two most important people – you, and the future Mr./Mrs. You.
4. Get a couple new (sexier) pieces for your wardrobe.
Don’t go dressing too provocatively to seem desperate. But, you can purchase one or two new pieces of clothing or new accessories that bring out the sexiness in you. You are single now. You are available. Getting a little attention through some clothes that fit well, bring our your best colors, and that show a little bit of your beautiful body will be enough to make your ex man fume.
5. Start earning that dollar
Find a side-hustle or a part-time job (or a full-time job if you aren’t working at all). There are a few perks to this. Your ex may come into the restaurant that you are working at, and you can make that face you have always wanted to (not that we are being immature here). You will feel better getting up and out of the house, or selling art that you pour some passion into. Finally, you will be earning some extra money, which is the point of all of this.
6. Being financially stable
Or you can go the other way and you can save your money. Show that being without him means that you can be more responsible, that you don’t have to spend a ton of money. You now have time to work hard and save up for a huge trip, finishing your education, or any other major goal of yours. Believe me, this doesn’t sound like a great way to get revenge, but if word gets out that you are busting your ass and saving some serious cash, there will be some real revenge taking place. Your ex will HATE that you are doing well financially.
7. Get rid of all your physical memories
That means take down all the pictures, boxing up all of the “relationship stuff” and making that call to see if they want it. The pain of hearing that may drive them wild, but keep in mind, they may try to play it cool. If they do not want it, get rid of it (all except for a picture or a souvenir that you simply cannot live without). It will be a therapeutic cleanse for you. Plus, if they happen to stop over for one reason or another and don’t see all your treasures exhibited, it will burn.
8. Keep the dirty secrets
If you can be man (or woman) enough to seek your revenge online, you can still go a less mature route by posting things about them that you know will piss them off. Do they suck their thumb? Who wouldn’t want to know that? Just remember, many times people fight fire with fire. Keep the Golden Rule in mind. Also, be careful because some things you may say or so may end up biting you in the ass later on. Even though it is online, it can still be used in a court of law.
9. Go out and mingle
Find individuals you can casually date and be happy about it. You don’t need another long-term relationship just yet. Get back into the field and enjoy it. Getting revenge on your ex by going out and enjoying the single life shows them that they didn’t hurt you. In fact, it will probably hurt them. Make sure that your ex finds out somehow through another source; don’t just call them up and say, “Hey, I am going out to get laid!” That looks pretty desperate.
10. Get into a long-term relationship when you are ready
Be happy. Find someone that takes care of you and that respects you. If you keep going on long enough you may enter into an engagement. Don’t do this a week after your ex leaves you though. That just looks silly. Just give it some time and when they bump into you years down the road, showcasing how happy you are is the best revenge on that boyfriend or girlfriend that gave up on you.